For those who don’t know a lot about open adoption or adoption in general. I urge you to do your research. Look into adoption agencies. Talk to people. Ask questions. Ask me if you want to, but part of the process is terminating the parental rights of the biological parents of the child. From an adoptive parent perspective this was probably one of the hardest things I sat through during this adoption process. Read More
Before I continue sharing about the days, weeks, months and even years after Jackson was born. I want to share a little bit about how we chose open adoption. For those of you who don’t know, I work for a family law attorney. I have worked in this field of law for almost 10 years. There is nothing glamorous about people getting a divorce, fighting over their children, or even fighting over the bushes in the front lawn (true story). But both of the lawyers I have worked for when asked why they chose family law have said, I didn’t chose it, it chose me. I feel the very same way about open adoption. In fact, when we were told that our adoption agency, the same one everyone in our family had used, only did open adoptions, I sort of had a panic moment. I didn’t want that. I wanted a baby, period the end of it. I didn’t want the drama of dealing with another person in my life or I had heard many stories at this point in time, about the birth moms being too involved or too particular about what they wanted, and I wanted no part of it. Then I was nicely reminded that it wasn’t about me, it would be about what is best for our child and the best thing for our child is to know that he/she was loved by his adoptive parents and his biological parents. And then Heather chose us. Read More
I love that picture just as much as Heather does. In fact, we had it printed in a 10 x 13 and framed in Jackson’s room. Those 3 days are some what unexplainable. I have done my best to try to put it into words but there are some things you just cannot find the right words for. I don’t think any of us expected it to be this way. I also don’t think it all quite sank in until months and months later, just how beautiful those moments with Heather were. But getting ready to go home was an emotional roller coaster on many levels. I was overly excited to be a mom and even more excited to be Jackson’s mom. But there was and probably always will be a part of me that is wondering how Heather is feeling about it all. Read More
We are returning to the days we spent in the hospital after Jackson was born. We were at the hospital for 2 nights and 3 days. Heather’s comments are in italics. Most of these were sent to us in a letter from Heather 12 days after Jackson was born. Heather has given me permission to use them and has also been adding her comments and thoughts along the way. Make sure to check them out! Read More
Sorry I haven’t posted in a few days, we had Jackson’s 3rd birthday party last weekend and it took longer to “recover” than I had hoped! While I have been trying to keep this blog in chronological order to bring you all up to the current date, I feel compelled to share this moment with you all! Read More
If you haven’t seen Heather’s reflection to yesterday’s blog post, I have added it here. She adds another dimension to my love for 3’s, FAITH, HOPE & LOVE!!!
I’ve been reminiscing on all these wonderful memories while reading Jessica’s blog – laughing and crying as I read each post. After reading Part “3” on Jackson’s birth, the feelings of gratitude and clarity of our meaningful relationship just hit me like lightning. & it was SO needed (for me) – and powerful.
Here’s why: Read More