Recently in our bible study we were talking about attachment styles and how they are formed as children and carried out through our adulthood. There are SEVERAL and I mean SEVERAL books, research, studies, etc. about attachment disorders in adopted children.  So this has always been on our radar, we just don’t know if it will ever have an effect on Jackson. Continue reading “Attachment.”

Family Pictures.


Just a few weekends ago, we took extended family pictures. Like, four generations of beautiful Heesch family photos. Here are some of my absolute favorites. And if you know nothing about me, know that this family saved me (in more ways than one) and I love them with every ounce of my being. Continue reading “Family Pictures.”


He’s Our Little World Changer

I know I have showcased our video on the blog before but it is worth sharing again. And worth a little bit of the back story, as this is the next time we saw Heather. We went several months without seeing Heather. Not intentionally but it happened. Life happened. You slowly realize how fast time goes when you are raising children and how fast they grow up. So when we were contacted by our adoption agency to create a video about open adoption, we jumped right in, just like every other thing relating to open adoption, we had no idea what to expect. Continue reading “Video.”

First Christmas.


I can’t believe how many positive messages I have received regarding the blog, our story, my openness, etc. So, first I wanted to say thank you for the love and support. And wasn’t it wonderful to hear from my awesome husband in the last post! Woohoo for all the awesome dads out there because I know Jackson’s got one of the best dads around! But now, back to where I left off some time ago. Our journey to this point, as a quick re-cap went something like this: we spent three days in the hospital with Heather, went to the termination of parental rights hearing with her, saw her again when Jackson was dedicated to the church, and then… There was a little lull before seeing them again.  We did have a very short visit around Thanksgiving with her kiddos and her dad (as they have family that lived in the same town as us).

But then we received the most precious Christmas gift for Jackson. The below blanket showcases pictures of Jackson’s birth family. Not just Heather, her mom, her dad, her children, but of her extended family, including a picture of Grandpa Lawrence, whom Jackson got his middle name from. What a thoughtful and amazing gift for Jackson. Before we moved this last spring, this blanket had hung in Jackson’s bedroom for him to look at and for us to talk about who was in all of these pictures. (It would still be hanging in his room but we don’t plan on staying in our condo long term, so nothing hangs on the wall!) Oh, and we talk about open adoption just as anyone talks to their children about learning manners. We never want it to be a secret or something that is to be ashamed of, it is just part of our lives and we talk about it!

I know I have mentioned it before that this last year has been probably the hardest of my adult life. But it has made it even more clear to me how important family is. Growing up, I would say that I didn’t have the “typical” life of a child but as I continue to grow up (yes, I am still growing up!) I realize more and more how important family is. There is that saying out there, blood is thicker than water. Well in high school (oh yes, I was drama filled in those years!), I would have told you that isn’t true, my friends will also have my back. Then I had a child of my own. And then I realized just how true that statement is. I will fight to the ends of this earth for Jackson and what is best for him.

Family as defined by the ‘ole, “is a basic social unit consisting of parents and their children, considered as a group, whether dwelling together or not.” You know what my favorite part of that definition is, whether dwelling together or not.  That is why Heather, her mom, her dad, her children, her grandparents, her sister, etc., they are our family too! And why it is so important for us to showcase that to Jackson, because no matter what, this kid has an army of people who love him and we won’t ever let him forget that!


Guest Post #1

A picture is worth 1,000 words

My heart feels like it’s being pulled in two different directions.  I see this little boy for whom I have an incredible amount of love.  I see how his smile lights up my world.  I can be having the worst day and when I get home and he asks for a hug and kiss, all my fears and worries drift away.  I literally feel my stress leave my body because all I need is his arms around my neck, squeezing.  After his hug full of love ends, he excitedly wants to play and share his favorite parts of the day.  At dinner time, he shares what he’s thankful for and then asks, “Mom, what are you thankful for?”  When mom says three things she’s thankful for, he says, “Dad, what are you thankful for?”  He makes me happy in ways I never knew were possible.  I never fully understood the connection a dad could have with his son, but now I get it and I absolutely love it!  Continue reading “Guest Post #1”