(Update– please read my mom’s comment below to get her perspective on the meeting!)
Our thought process was that both of our parents were going to be at the hospital and Heather’s family was going to be there too when the baby was born. We didn’t know how her family felt about it, we knew they were supportive of her decision to place her child with us, we just didn’t know how they were going to be feeling emotionally with it all, when we walked out of the hospital with the baby and Heather did not. We wanted to be sympathetic to those feelings. We knew our parents were going to be over the moon excited. But how were her parents or grandparents going to be feeling? How would they feel around us (complete strangers to them). So, we planned a get together at the zoo with the 3 families. Our parents, JJ’s brother, Heather, Heather’s mom, dad, grandma, her niece and her two children were all there. Most would probably feel shy, possibly uncomfortable, maybe awkward, or just different when you are meeting the family who is going to change your life forever. For us, it wasn’t like that at all. It has never been like that. It honestly feels like we are hanging out with our family, our blood family. We spent several hours together walking around the zoo, playing with the kids and having lunch together. There weren’t any “awkward” moments, there was just a lot of fun and laughter.
A few weeks later we attended a little birthday party for Heather at her sister’s house. Heather’s sister and brother-in-law were not able to be at the zoo with us and were just as excited to meet us as we were to meet them. It was really starting to feel like we were becoming a family. One extremely large family built on a solid foundation of love for one little unborn baby boy.
Up next: The day our world changed, Jackson’s birth.